Think that you’ll never have the life you’d dreamed of? Feel like you’re just not good enough?
I certainly didn’t. I had shitty jobs for nearly 20 years. I used to get up in freezing cold winter mornings in London and go to work on crowded underground trains. Sometimes, I used to spend three hours a day commuting.
To make matters worse, my mental state was not good. I was negative. I was unhappy about my life. I blamed anything and everyone for it. And I couldn’t see a way out.
Fast forward to today
I hate the expression “living the dream” and I apologise for using it.
But I’m living in a Thai paradise while running my businesses online – which only takes me a few hours every day.
I’m happy. I have a wonderful life. I’m incredibly grateful. Sometimes, I pinch myself and wonder what exactly happened. I’ll try to explain as it may help you.
Working in crappy jobs
I know how it feels to be desperate. I was working in shitty jobs for almost 20 years.
I was doing very menial tasks in boring offices. I’d arrive, get told what to do, sit behind a computer for 8 hours (it seemed longer), and then I’d go home.
That was 20 years of failure, stagnation, drinking, smoking, a lot of drugs, and crap TV.
The Internet “happened”
It was during that time the Internet “came out”. It had been in existence for ages but I was first aware of it in 1995.
The more I heard of this new Internet thing, the more excited I became. 1995 was the year I bought a 28.8 bps modem. I spent hours and hours trying to find things on Netscape Navigator with the Altavista search engine. I remember thinking, This is going to be huge! This is going to change everything!
I was still young, I was in my twenties. I wanted in. I racked my brains of some way. After all, I was working with Photoshop at the time – the web was full of GIFs and JPGs. Surely there was something I could do in this exciting new world?
… and yet nothing happened
This was in 1995 and I was working in shitty jobs. Well, fast forward to 2005, and I was still working in shitty jobs!
So I was looking at the Internet for ten years, thinking that I wanted to be a part of it.
For. Ten. Years.
Guess what? I did nothing about my dreams. Nothing except think negatively about my own failures and blame them on people and things beyond my control.
However, 10 years later …
In 2005, I finally managed to build my own website. It wasn’t much: Three pages of static HTML on free hosting space from my ISP.
Trust me, it must have looked like a dog’s dinner. But later that year, I’d got my own domain, hosting, and even set up WordPress.
These were the very first steps on the path of running my own online business and being able to stop working.
From “I’m Not Good Enough” to “Living The Dream”
So how did it happen?
How did I overcome despair and get to where I am now?
It all started with mindset.
Initially, it was serendipity. A few things came to my attention: I read an article about happiness and Buddhist meditation; I saw a TV programme about NLP and self-hypnosis. And finding information about these things was easier now that we had broadband Internet.
I became interested in Buddhism and NLP. Then went on to read about all sorts of other things: personal development, positive thinking, Taoism, mysticism, etc.
I was interested in the Law of Attraction concept that what goes on inside you affects what goes on in your life. Your thoughts and inner state causes what you experience in your life.
I wasn’t sure if this was true. But I thought, what the heck, why don’t I put it to the test?
So I started meditating, positive thinking, and changing my thoughts to an abundant and positive mindset.
Did it work? Hell, yeah!
My message to you
I have a message to everyone out there who’s desperate. Listen to my heart felt plea in this video:
You are definitely capable of doing anything you want to do! But I understand that you may not feel that right now. Maybe you feel like you’re not good enough. I thought I wasn’t good enough but I changed and proved to myself that I was.
Give yourself a small goal like writing a blog post, or putting up a website, or creating a product, or anything that you think is “difficult” or “beyond you”.
Then, when you’ve successfully achieved something you thought you were incapable of, that will give you confidence to get what you want in life.
I will write more and make more videos about this. But first, a quick plug:
I say more about my meditation, affirmation, and positive thinking techniques are in this book: Mind Freedom: Re-program Yourself for Success and Happiness with Meditations, Affirmations, Mindset Shifts.
So, what now?
You don’t have to buy the book. I just put it there because a lot of people have asked me about things that are covered in the book recently.
I would love to know if this article helped? And would you like to hear more about this subject? Leave a message in the comments.